THE MARRIAGE COMMITMENT

" Have you lost your mind; No, but I am about to lose my wife! "
 ~Tyler Perry (Why Did I Get Married)

He removed his wedding ring and out the door he went with the famous last words; I am moving out.
Husbands take their time with their wives very seriously, especially bedroom time. We can come up with all the excuses why we can not or will not sleep with them; but, they are not hearing it. Many of us should consider his complaint as a Warning; because you can bet there is another woman out there trying to give him the love and attention he's missing at home. Contrary to popular belief our men do love us and will not go to bed with other women just because the skank wants him to. Often many of us push our men into the arms of another woman simply because we make them feel as if they are no longer desired nor appreciated. The easiest way to hurt a man is to deny him the love you promised to give him at the altar and it's also the quickest way to lose him.

" Remember, I am talking about the good men."

Being a woman I know how tired we get from the children, job, house duties and family; but before God we made a vow; To love, honor and cherish, that beautiful black man. Somehow, someway he ends up last. Some of us feel we no longer have to put in the overtime since we have the job; but this is when it's really required. Would we leave our children outside unattended for long lengths of time? What happens when we leave something cooking on the stove unattended? An unattended married man is an unhappy man. It's not enough that we clean the house, the laundry, cook and run the family errands. He needs his private time. When it's your husband it's just not about the sex. It's about the reconnection and intimacy with "his" woman/wife. Men have it harder than we will ever know; but they somehow sustain under the burden. Many will not tell us about their burdens due to their upbringing not to complain and be a man about whatever they are going through. Sometimes, he just needs to lay his head on your pillow, while you rub his head as he falls asleep. He needs to know he's your King, not in an controlling way; but that he's appreciated and loved by his Queen. He needs to know you will be there when he requires your attention. Not doing so will cause an broken home. As husband and wife, Sustainability, is the capacity to endure all of life's trials and tribulations together. As humans especially married couples we are not to place undue burdens on one another.

The Gift Of Love: Sensual, affectionate, romantic, tender, fun-loving, surprising, strategic, problem solving, practical, just to name a few. Love takes an lifetime to unwrap and once we think we have it figured out, we discover something new that changes everything. Love grows and never falters. ~Paedams

 Marriages endure challenges unknown to regular couples but they are more rewarding and well worth the added challenges if they are faced with maturity, commitment and understanding. Unless, you married an gold digger, it takes real love for a man to step to the altar and commit. Once married, a good man does not bring you any harm; he brings you comfort. He does not place the added burden of taking care of the financial needs of the family solely on you. He understands this is mainly his responsibility. With this being said, before anything else other than God; your duty is to your husband as his is towards you. Faithfulness between married couples transpires an life long commitment. Many married couples allow others to voice their opinions when it comes to their lives together; but the reality is, it's not anyone else business. It's between the husband and wife. It's okay to seek advice from those who opinions you trust; but the ultimate decision remains with the married couple. A good man and woman is rare these days. Once locating and placing them in your life, your duty is to be good to them. They are more valuable than gold. As what you do for the ones that are not so good; here's my story. Get rid of them! Good and bad cannot coexist in an marriage. One must suffer because of the other one. A bad spouse will cost you dearly and the damages are far too extensive to endure.

A marriage is not an marriage, if only one is committed. Marriage is an lifelong intimate relationship built on the promise of both parties to be givers of this gift. Behind the doors of each home resides undesirable habits and quirky secrets. It is only through the gift and grace of love we will not limit nor be limited. We should be more accepting of our spouses whether we feel like it or not. Instead of controlling and dominating our spouses we should find ways to deal with them and see the good and bring out their best in spite of the circumstances.

When our relationships are born in the heart of God, they bring out the best in us for they are nurtured by love. ~Don Lessin

 To love a man women must realize he is going to fail, struggle and be stubborn. He's only human. This does not diminish his goodness. A good man realizes and uphold his commitment to love only his wife. As married couples we are not to chip away at one another with our complaints and whining. We are to be understanding and dispensers of love and not suffering. We should not love our spouses simply because they love us; but we should love them because we promised to love them. Many may want to mince my words; but let's be clear. You can not remain in a marriage if the spouse adamantly shows they are against the marriage by sleeping around, abusing you (mentally or physically), or consitently moving out. This is like trying to take a bone from a dog. It's not happening! This is when you need to cut your losses and move on.


This is not an one sided commitment, it requires two to make it work. A marriage in name alone, is like placing an bull in a China shop. RUN! Be good to one another and the world is yours. Harm one another and destruction will devour you. All Glory Is God and All Praise In His Name "together" will be your armor. God Bless.

Copyright 2011. PFP