Sweet Mocha Magazine was designed to celebrate women. Real talk on life and love. Dealing with the everyday struggles of being W.O.M.E.N, our issues with men and children and much more.
" Have you lost your mind; No, but I am about to lose my wife! " ~Tyler Perry (Why Did I Get Married)
He removed his wedding ring and out the door he went with the famous last words; I am moving out.
Husbands take their time with their wives very seriously, especially bedroom time. We can come up with all the excuses why we can not or will not sleep with them; but, they are not hearing it.Many of us should consider his complaint as a Warning; because you can bet there is another woman out there trying to give him the love and attention he's missing at home. Contrary to popular belief our men do love us and will not go to bed with other women just because the skank wants him to. Often many of us push our men into the arms of another woman simply because we make them feel as if they are no longer desired nor appreciated.The easiest way to hurt a man is to deny him the love you promised to give him at the altar and it's also the quickest way to lose him.
" Remember, I am talking about the good men."
Being a woman I know how tired we get from the children, job, house duties and family; but before God we made a vow; To love, honor and cherish, that beautiful black man. Somehow, someway he ends up last. Some of us feel we no longer have to put in the overtime since we have the job; but this is when it's really required. Would we leave our children outside unattended for long lengths of time? What happens when we leave something cooking on the stove unattended? An unattended married man is an unhappy man. It's not enough that we clean the house, the laundry, cook and run the family errands. He needs his private time. When it's your husband it's just not about the sex. It's about the reconnection and intimacy with "his" woman/wife. Men have it harder than we will ever know; but they somehow sustain under the burden. Many will not tell us about their burdens due to their upbringing not to complain and be a man about whatever they are going through. Sometimes, he just needs to lay his head on your pillow, while you rub his head as he falls asleep. He needs to know he's your King, not in an controlling way; but that he's appreciated and loved by his Queen. He needs to know you will be there when he requires your attention. Not doing so will cause an broken home. As husband and wife, Sustainability, is the capacity to endure all of life's trials and tribulations together. As humans especially married couples we are not to place undue burdens on one another.
The Gift Of Love: Sensual, affectionate, romantic, tender, fun-loving, surprising, strategic, problem solving, practical, just to name a few. Love takes an lifetime to unwrap and once we think we have it figured out, we discover something new that changes everything. Love grows and never falters. ~Paedams
Marriages endure challenges unknown to regular couples but they are more rewarding and well worth the added challenges if they are faced with maturity, commitment and understanding. Unless, you married an gold digger, it takes real love for a man to step to the altar and commit. Once married, a good man does not bring you any harm; he brings you comfort. He does not place the added burden of taking care of the financial needs of the family solely on you. He understands this is mainly his responsibility. With this being said, before anything else other than God; your duty is to your husband as his is towards you. Faithfulness between married couples transpires an life long commitment. Many married couples allow others to voice their opinions when it comes to their lives together; but the reality is, it's not anyone else business. It's between the husband and wife. It's okay to seek advice from those who opinions you trust; but the ultimate decision remains with the married couple. A good man and woman is rare these days. Once locating and placing them in your life, your duty is to be good to them. They are more valuable than gold. As what you do for the ones that are not so good; here's my story. Get rid of them! Good and bad cannot coexist in an marriage. One must suffer because of the other one. A bad spouse will cost you dearly and the damages are far too extensive to endure.
A marriage is not an marriage, if only one is committed. Marriage is an lifelong intimate relationship built on the promise of both parties to be givers of this gift. Behind the doors of each home resides undesirable habits and quirky secrets. It is only through the gift and grace of love we will not limit nor be limited. We should be more accepting of our spouses whether we feel like it or not. Instead of controlling and dominating our spouses we should find ways to deal with them and see the good and bring out their best in spite of the circumstances.
When our relationships are born in the heart of God, they bring out the best in us for they are nurtured by love. ~Don Lessin
To love a man women must realize he is going to fail, struggle and be stubborn. He's only human. This does not diminish his goodness. A good man realizes and uphold his commitment to love only his wife. As married couples we are not to chip away at one another with our complaints and whining. We are to be understanding and dispensers of love and not suffering. We should not love our spouses simply because they love us; but we should love them because we promised to love them. Many may want to mince my words; but let's be clear. You can not remain in a marriage if the spouse adamantly shows they are against the marriage by sleeping around, abusing you (mentally or physically), or consitently moving out. This is like trying to take a bone from a dog. It's not happening! This is when you need to cut your losses and move on.
This is not an one sided commitment, it requires two to make it work. A marriage in name alone, is like placing an bull in a China shop. RUN! Be good to one another and the world is yours. Harm one another and destruction will devour you. All Glory Is God and All Praise In His Name "together" will be your armor. God Bless.
To love is Nothing...... To be loved is Something.....
To love and be loved is Everything......
Men call me ignorant and mean because I do not put up with their BS. I even had one on Facebook to go as far as to ask me about my single status or should I say, he said "I was mean because I am pretty and did not have a man." So let me clear this crap up, "I mean what I say!" I have zero tolerance for lying and cheating. I put "Love" in it's proper place and that's with me. As far as with the male species this is how I view "Love"; Either you are "only" with me or you are against me. I have been married for 11 years and I do not put up with his BS. I require a man to be an MAN because I am an WOMAN. I am not a little girl toy to be played with. I take my relationships seriously and when I love, I love hard. When I find myself loving him more than he loves me, he has to go; because I am going to do me. This hitting on me like I am your punching bag is definitely not allowed because you will find yourself like the others: cut up, stabbed, possibly shot, near dead or with a well whooped a**. If I whooped your a**, then I treated you like the B**ch, you came at me with. Learn your manners, It's not cool to hit a woman, keep your hands to yourself! Now as for the lying......very big pet peeve. If you are cheating, be a man about it, let your girl know. You will leave me the choice if I want to stay or go. If not, I am gone anyway. I do not believe in fighting over a man or this thing we all call "love." Love doesn't require for me to deal with BS, lying, cheating nor abuse. It requires for me to be loved in return, at peace, love my man 110% and give him the home and wife he deserves.
I am done with the war of "THE THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE". As for my sisters still out in the trenches, I will pray for you. You are good, strong and beautiful women. Know your worth. ~Paedams
Dealing with ignorant men makes me evil. I am too old for this sh**! I have spent most of my precious life dealing with men and their BS; now, all I want is peace and to be a Christian. Men mess with my Christainity. It's hard to stay on the straight and narrow path without looking to my left nor my right, dealing with the BS of men. I am focused on looking forward and not back! I love my family; this is my parents, sister, children and grandchildren. After God they all come first. When the rightChristian man comes along he will receive my best which is an gentle, loving, compliant wife. Until then..................... FLUCK OFF! GAMMIT!
I have noticed men complain more than women these days. These are what I call B**ch Made, nigs. Us women do the best we can in raising our sons; but every boy needs his father or an real man to show him the ways of an real men. The label B**tch Made, is exactly what it implies, these are the females, who will not allow their boys to have anything to do with their fathers because the father no longer wants to put up with her; but wants an relationship with his son. Like us, men have their reasons they want out of relationships; Let him go! Don't punish your son from a rewarding relationship with his father. The same applies with the daughters' relationships with their father. Regardless of how big of a jerk he was to you, if he poses no harm to his children, please stop being b**tchy and let the men see their children. We always bellyache about them not being in their children's lives; but we are the ones refusing to let go of the past. Men this does not excuse you from being active in your children lives because you can take her to court and demand to see your children. Especially, if and only if you are paying child support. If not, KEEP IT MOVING! Ladies this is when we find an real man who will teach our sons the do's and don'ts of becoming an real man and No, we do not have to be romantically involved with him. Get your son enrolled in an mentoring program and active in the church.
Now back to the B**ch Made nigs; you find it oh so easy to complain to your woman about the things she is not doing. WHAT ABOUT YOU? What are you bringing to the table other than your meat? What about the love, commitment, sacrifice and well being of your family? DO YOU HAVE AN JOB? It's hard as heck for us not to complain when you want to play the video games all day while we are at work and trust me a weak man is not sexy. We want men that are not afraid of doing an honest day's work and getting their hands dirty. WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT? GET A JOB! I am not talking about the men who are actually getting up everyday, getting out and are actively seeking employment. I am talking to the ones whining and looking for employment "only" online. The ones who rather BS with their also broke friends or would rather market themselves as street hustlers (thief, corner pharmacist, thug. male strippers). My bad please do not let me forget about the wannabe rappers and the DVD/CD bootlegging kings. Ladies, we must stop allowing this unacceptable behavior. These are children and not men. We bust our a**es like men these days and should want the same respect a man would want. I'm sorry, I am not working for no man! If that's the case I will get a gigolo. The only job these B**ch Made Nigs want is to lay pipe and once "you" get paid they expect to be paid as well. NEGRO PLEASE! I WISH YOU WOULD! I BEG YOU TO! Real Men before you get your drawers all bunched up, I will break my bread with you; if you break your bread with me,50/50.
The moral of this story EVERYONE needs to take an real look at themselves. MEN how can you expect a woman to respect you when you are "not" bringing anything to the table. WOMEN how do you expect a man to love you if you cannot love yourself. The bottom line is stop making excuses and only accept what you deserve. An relationship is built for two; not one. It must be equal on every level; but it MUST be built on love and not sex. An foundation of love can withstand the storms faced by an relationship; but one built on sex will fall under the least amount of pressure. BOTH are to honor the ties that bind including those of their children. What is really lacking in this day and time is the love of family; especially the love of GOD. Without Him everything we achieve is short lived and most definitely will fail.
Copyright 2012. PFP
Is this too much to ask? It's hard out here for an pimp! Figuratively speaking, I need you to get your grind on. If not, get gone. I was raised by an strong grandfather and father (real men); I cannot accept weakness in a man; it interferes with my genetic makeup. I was raised to be an Warrior Princess and I need an Warrior. I do not need nor want an watered down, candy-a**, B**tch Made, nig. Either we are going to fight this life together or I will fight it alone. Being with an weak a** man is like drinking kool aid when I can be drinking Dr. Pepper. DO YOU FEEL ME? With me these are your employment requirements: Hard Working, non-abusive (verbally or physically) Good "Christian" Man! I don't care if you are what some consider ugly; but you MUST be clean. The Catch-22 is, if you are not able to work, you MUST receive your disability and your claim for disability cannot be Mental Issues. I have enough of that going on with myself! I cannot receive disability due to the fact my mental flares are triggered by BS men; therefore, the governing board of the Social Security Administration and their mental board consider me reasonably sane because I can avoid BS men. Also, I will need to see your clean bill of health (health records) NO AIDS. Therefore, hombres toro mierda, no es necesario aplicar y tener un día de puta madre!
For all the good men, THANKS!
As for the no good men, this video is dedicated to you.
Consider me an Marine and I just deployed THE BIRD, THE FINGER, THE LEGEND......"OORAH!"
I've been up since 6am getting treats ready for the children of the church. Many of them received good reports from school plus we are in the Halloween Season. I want to award the children for their hard work in the church as well as school. It's easy to look over our children and not show them appreciation; but I feel we as adults need to make the extra efforts to show them they are loved and appreciated. When we appreciate our children, they appreciate themselves and develop good self-esteems. Good self-esteem makes them leaders and not followers. Encouragement for a child is like an drug. The more you give, the more they want. Some need it more than others and we consider these our problem children. I call them the Halloween babies because you will never know what they are going to do; TRICK OR TREAT. They are our little nightmares! These are the ones that need that special encouragement because they are highly sensitive. The wrong words, touch and treatment sends these special babies into another stratosphere. I learned the hard way. I had one of these babies and I did not learn until he was nearly an adult how to treat him. What worked for the others did not work for him. Funny thing is, he's more like me than my two daughters are.
I always wondered how my parents could persuade him to do things I couldn't. They had experience from "ME"; their problem child. Anywayyyy! Appreciate, encourage and love your children because they will be adults before you know it. God Bless
Many times in our relationships, we desire the cake of the relationship, Desert or the pleasurable part without doing the necessary things such as communicating as the prerequisite in getting to the pleasurable part.
Many people do not realize the true essence of lovemaking and many more would be surprised to find out that the "real know how" is found in the Bible. Yes,The Bible! This is where many churches fail because the Bible covers every aspect of our lives including "sex." Many churches feel to speak of sex is to condone premarital lust, fornication and adultery. This could not be further from the truth. "You can lead a horse to water; but you cannot make him drink." The sins of premarital sex is charged to the game of those whom are playing without being officially registered before the Father. Trust me, I have illegal points in the game as well; but, it's never too late or too early to learn the official rules of the game. WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER, YOU DO BETTER! For many parents with coming of age children, we need to have a true guideline when speaking of sex with our children and I cannot think of a better place to begin than with the Bible. Trust me, it's very deep. It's the true version of how a man is to treat his woman and how she is to receive him. This is not those watered down porn flicks, self-help books, etc.. Ladies if you are tired of the disappointment and feelings of emptiness after all has been said and done, you need this. Men, if you are clueless, which most of you are, you definitely need this! Inquiring minds want and need to know: " How Can I Get My True Groove On?"
The wisest man Solomon author of such books as Proverbs and Ecclesiastes explains what a man is suppose to feel for his bride. His love for her is not to be superficial; but genuine. We all know anything that is superficial is not long lived because it deals with the surface, it's not internal. For any of us to truly love someone it has to deal with their inner person (personality) and not their looks or their material possessions. Do you feel me, Ladies? We must love him and not what he possess and men you cannot just love us for our looks and this include our bodies. These are the things that attract us, I know; but in order to be successful in a marriage we must know the fundamentals of an healthy relationship. I say marriage because this is the context coming from an biblical standpoint. It is morally wrong to have sex outside of marriage. I know in this day and time, most, have ignored this, I am the first to admit "So have I"; but, the truth is the light. We cannot fit the Bible to accommodate our lives/lifestyles, it just does not work this way.
If you are truly looking for a change, then you must be the change you want to see before you can see it anyone else. For instance Ladies, let's say you are in a so called committed relationship, is it truly an commitment if he does not put a ring on it and if he does places the ring, did it come with vows/marriage? Either way you can have the ring and no papers, it's just an relationship of convenience for him. He gets the perks of an husband and you perform the duties of an wife. Who wins? Think about it! For many of us, we were raised in the church by christian parents who failed when it came to speaking with us about sex. On both ends it was forbidden and many of us learned inappropriate values concerning sex. If the church would have an honest discussion of the godly nature of sexual relationships between an male and a female then our children as well as us will learn the beauty involved in the lovemaking process. Not doing so has resulted in the church's perpetuating the fact that people find it difficult to express their feelings about love, life and premarital sex. The book of Ecclesiastes and Song of Solomon use poetry and figurative language to talk about love and life.
I remember as a child, when my mother would bake her homemade cookies and I would want to eat them before I had my dinner. I could not wait to grab a few, hot out the oven. She would tell me "No"; because she knew this would ruin my appetite and I would not want to eat the meal she had cooked for my nourishment. The same issue is applied when having premarital sex. Being sexual creatures we spend a lot of time thinking about and anticipating sex. We learn all we can about the one pleasure that soothes the savage beasts which resides in each of us.
Yet, we do not experience the beauty of sex as God intended it. We go through the motions; but we fail to understand the way God meant it to be and the result is often a tragic misunderstanding, especially if we leave out the moral, commitment and spiritual aspect of the relationship, which makes sex become animalistic. We then behave like animals without guidance or instruction. Animals just hookup and God did not intend this for people. Not being equally yoked as a man and wife leads to the downfall of many relationships this is why being Christians with the same faith, belief system and commitment to Christ promises longevity in a marital relationship. 2 Corinthians 6:14 admonishes us Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? You must have the common bond of Jesus Christ in your life; if you do, then you will do everything that is right concerning one another. I have yet to see where an Christian and an non-believer can coexist in an healthy relationship. Yes, it is possible to coexist with an non-believer; but, it's not healthy nor productive in your walk with Christ. A non-believer will do everything to test your faith because they do not understand nor will appreciate your faith. Non believers will want to party like rock stars, be drunk, not fellowship in church and anything else the devil we have them to do. They are most notorious for adultery. Being a Christian requires patience, diligence, belief in a higher power and reverence to God; Which requires consistently being in prayer and watchful of not sinning. Staying on the path of righteousness which means not bringing harm to others, spreading the world of God and putting others before yourself. Basically being a Christian is being focused on the right and not the wrong. How can you focus on being righteous when your spouse is continuously being wrong and wanting you to do wrong. Eventually you will give in for the love of them and not the love of God. See as an woman of faith looking for man of faith, I now realize the importance of maintaining a balanced approach to all facets of my life. First and foremost, I put God first. In every compartment of my life, I must acknowledge and give Him the praise. Being human can get in the way of being a Christian and being human like you, I am an sexual creature. Although, I have messed up, doesn't mean I cannot clean up. The temptation is many and the flesh is weak; but, this time around, I am getting it right. This time I am not lead by others who do not have to deal with my consequences. Nor do I seek the wrong love anymore; therefore, God is with me.
Therefore, I now know and believe that romantic love is an important dimension of an Christian marriage.
Anticipation Song of Solomon 4:8-11 says,
8.Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, come with me from Lebanon. Descend from the crest of Amana, from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon, from the lions' dens and the mountain haunts of the leopards. 9.You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. 10.How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice! 11.Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue. The fragrance of your garments is like that of Lebanon.
Love calls in verse 8. In essence Solomon says, "Come with me, my love." He totally focused his attention on his bride. He was not demanding, it was a gentle invitation. He said "Lets climb up the mountain of our love together." He was gentling assuring her of her security in him and he was alleviating her fears. Note that he mentioned his spouse/bride five times in verses 8-12. It is important to note that according to the Bible, "real sex" is not only about the individual, but it is about the mate as well. They go to the mountain, or to an higher level, and they want to make sure they are on the same level. The husband was not on the mountain while the bride was still in the valley. Solomon, wanted his bride to come up to the level where he was. This was pure unselfish love. He wanted his bride every step of the way to experience what he was feeling. He was not rushing to get his and leave her unfulfilled. Too many of us ladies experience this far too often with the added burden of lying about how we were satisfied. Most of the time the men could care less if we were satisfied they just wanted to fulfill their desires. Most of men only used one of their parts and it was not the part that truly mattered. He may have been with you but how many others was on his mind? He does not belong to you and therefore he did not give of himself (heart, mind, body and soul).This is what you call "unequally yoked", where your spouse could care less about how you feel; especially in the bedroom.
Now moving on to Love captures in verses 9-11. Solomon told his wife in verse 9 she ravished him. In other words he told her she totally won his heart. With one glance she had totally enraptured him. In verse 9-10 he called her sister which is a term of friendship and affection. He was expressing how close they were-the intimacy of their relationship. He viewed her as his best friend. In verse 10, he told her she was better than wine. The spices refer to the physical intimacies of love; it is intoxicating it is sweet. Note that her smell was getting to him. Men are affected by sight and smell. All senses play a role in this beautiful music of romance. In verse 11, Solomon spoke of lips, drops and kisses. Their kissing became very intimate, very passionate, and it was designed to arouse them. Ladies, I don't know about you; but, I would prefer my love to be this way because of the appreciation aspect.
Appreciation (Song of Solomon 4:12-15) 12 You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain. 13 Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard, 14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the fine spices. You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebannon.
Something very special was happening on the wedding night we should appreciate. In verse 12, we notice it was holy. Solomon said that her garden was locked up, enclosed. All metaphors speak of the purity of the wife. She was kept, protected, locked up and sealed, until it was time to give herself to her husband. One of the greatest blessings you can give your mate is your purity. Virginity is to still be celebrated, and that is for both men and women. Regardless of what is happening in society or how it is portrayed by different medias or friends, keep yourself for this moment, the Bible places an premium on sexual purity. God forbids all sex outside of marriage (see 1 Corinthians 6:15-18). Solomon described his pure bride as delightful and delicious, gathering fruits, flowers and fragrance, plants, orchards and spices. He was saying he could find everything he needed in her garden. He was saying to his wife that in her he found all he desired and he never grew tired of her. He found sexual pleasure in his mate and she satisfied him at all times. In verse 15, he spoke of the garden fountain, a source of flowing water of wells and streams. He described her as a place where he could refresh himself. To all other men, she was locked up and sealed. She was only available to the one with the key to her garden, and that was her husband. From her husband she held "nothing" back. Her duty is to refresh and satisfy her husband, which is exactly what sex inside the bounds of marriage is intended to do. I do not know if any of you may remember the song "Secret Garden (Sweet Seduction Suite) performed by Barry White, Al B. Sure, El De barge, James Ingram"; an Quincy Jones production, well this song affirms the unity of an husband and wife.
Definite Affirmation!
Affirmation (Song Of Solomon 4:16; 5:1a)
16 Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that it's fragrance may spread abroad. Let my lover come into his garden and taste it's choice fruits!
I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride.
This is what we call an affirmation of love between the bride and the bridegroom. She was inviting her husband to make love to her. His reply was I have come, gathered, eaten and have drunk. He gathered his myrrh, he had eaten his honeycomb, he drank his wine and his milk....eight times he said. YOU GO BOY! This is the picture of a fully satisfying sexual experience.
Father God we just honor and thank you for wisdom in creating man and woman in your image, Your likeness, as sexual beings with sexual passions and appetites that are to be fulfilled in the holy bonds of marriage.Amen!
Ladies and gentlemen, this is what we are missing! This is why we must be equally yoked. Understanding, communication and love for the Father God. This is what brings us together, this is what blesses our union. There is no need to look to others outside our marriages when we come together in such a powerful and blessed way. Ladies, lock it up! It's time to get back to the true basics of what real love is about. Only you can grant access to your garden and that garden is intended for your HUSBAND. It does not matter that you are no longer a virgin in the flesh. You can renew yourself in the spirit and begin anew. Men, stop forcing yourselves mentally and physically on the women. Stop playing with their emotions! We all know, she is worth the wait. Ladies, be fair to yourselves. You deserve it! You want the lifetime journey, so please stop giving out rides. NO HITCHHIKERS! For all virgins, stay pure and wait for your husbands. Take it from someone who has already been there, it's not worth it!
If you are a black woman then you should know of "BLACK WOMEN DO WORKOUT!"; if you do not, then you should! They are the best thing in a woman's life other than the good Lord above. They are a very needed resource of support and encouragement for women wanting to exercise, lose weight and become healthy. It's a resource for all women regardless of the title. I admire the sisterhood and the common goal of all the women to regain their lives and overcome the obstacles and health problems being overweight can bring. Each day that I log on to my Facebook account, I am encouraged and inspired to lose the excess weight I have gained. I enjoy reading when they share their joys and pains. I laugh when they share how hard it is to workout and I cry with joy when they share how they no longer need blood pressure medications because they have begun exercising and changed their diets. They share information, encourage and support one another for better health and fitness. The sistahood is amazing! Black women from around the world are making history by working together at reducing health risks and promoting the true essence of fitness. How exciting! This is the greatest black momement since the Civil Rights Movement. We shall overcome and conguer obesity and all the health issues associated with this affliction. It's time to regain control of our lives and put our health first! Sisters it's time to hit the pavement, burn those calories, melt that fat and motivate ourselves to better looking and healthier women! Please join us on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/BlackWomenDOWorkout?sk=wall and if you are looking for someone to work out with in the Monroe and West Monroe area please send me an email at: sweetmochavideomagazine@gmail.com and I will partner you with someone. You can read my journey to weight loss and better health and learn very important tips about exercise here: http://sweetmocha-monroe.hubpages.com/hub/THE-BENEFITS-OF-EXERCISE-FOR-THE-MIND-BODY-AND-SOUL God Bless!
It has been long made aware that men abuse women; but what about the men that suffer through abuse from women. I am against Domestic Violence period. It is not acceptable behavior for either male or female to abuse their spouses. If you find yourself abusing those that love you then you need to be alone. Society finds it hard to be symphatetic to a man when he is being physically abused by his woman because many feel that women cannot do much damage. WRONG! Most see him as being weak for allowing this type of behavior and blame him for being battered. Domestic Violence is not any one's fault other than the one's committing it. Women are just as deadly as men if given the right tools. Although men suffer from Domestic Violence, statistics shows that women are 90% victimized. In comparison this a large difference from the 10% of men being victimized. Studies also show that in this 10% of men that the women were merely defending themselves during an domestic altercation whereas studies done from Emergency Room statistics are for 90% of women being battered. According to 1991 figures from the FBI, 71% of women are murdered by their spouses. The other percentage is she got him before he could get her. The cold hard facts is women who are abusers do nothing more than slap, kick, slightly punch and bite; only 1% of them kill their spouses. Death to anyone is tragic and all the cold blooded murderers need to be punished. However, I would say for the women who were protecting themselves and their children, these murders were justified. I know women are capable of murder, our prison systems validate this; but to what degree or circumstance. Most of the women locked up today are there because they murdered their abusive spouses and this is wrong. Unless, you have been a victim to Domestic Violence, you are not aware of the fear associated with leaving these men. Most women who do escape, only to have momentary freedom because their abusers will find and kill them as punishment for them leaving. It's kill or be killed. I find it unfair that most men who are screaming they are victims are actually the abusers. It is very seldom a real male victim of domestic abuse would come forth and use this type of media forum such as Facebook and other social outlets looking for pity. As for the Facebook cry babies, they are merely trying to set up an smoke screen because their acts of cowardness are finally being regulated and are no longer seen as matters of family privacy anymore. They need validation to their reigns of tyranny. They hide behind the masks of Pastor, Musician, Community Leaders and Politicians. Their victims will not divulge their cruel, oppressive and violent natures due to fear not only of him but of the people that follow them. These men use the private and sensitive nature of their crimes to silence their victims with blind fear of retribution. Yet, they use Facebook and other medias to exploit the less than 5% of men that are actually abused by women. They use these men as pedestals to in which to stand and make an mockery of an growing epidemic throughout the world in which they have created. Women are fighting back in record numbers simply because they fear for their lives and justice has not served them well. For the poor men that are victims, I feel you deserve just as much help as the women do and all victims need to take a stand against these domestic bullies. The resources are out there and if handled with much care you can once again live productive lives free of your abusers. Begin here and now by calling 1-800-799-SAFE. The more these bullies are exposed and imprisoned the less harm and death they will cause. Facebook cry babies, no one is listening! STOP, using a system set up to protect your victims. Your time is at hand and your end is near. Please read this article depicting the profile of an male Domestic Abuser: http://sweetmocha-monroe.hubpages.com/hub/WALK-AWAY-FROM-DOMESTIC-VIOLENCE
This a must read for unsuspecting victims being caught in the stare of abusers.
When I first fewed this video, I could not believe this man was so stupid to incriminate his self. Not only did he violate his poor wife in more ways than one; his son recorded the whole incident. For women suffering through abuse, you must watch. For help please 1-800-799-SAFE (Domestic Abuse Hotline). Please read this article depicting the profile of an male Domestic Abuser: http://sweetmocha-monroe.hubpages.com/hub/WALK-AWAY-FROM-DOMESTIC-VIOLENCE
Today is Good Friday!! Did you take time to give God praise. I thank God for sending his "Only" begotten Son (Jesus) to die and save my soul. Through the sacrifices on the ninth hour (3:00 Pm), Jesus died, for you and me. Therefore, at 3PM, I stopped my day, just to pray and give Him thanks. Jesus died an miserable death just to redeem my soul and I love Him for doing this. Although, the ninth hour has passed, don't take advantage of another moment. Stop and give Him your time in prayer and Thank Him for his sacrifice.
In relationships many find it hard to allow space for both parties to grow. It is not only necessary but healthy for individuals to be themselves outside of the relationship. To be able to read a book, see friends, see family, etc.. Crowding one's space is not only considered insecure and rude; but it's a very good way to kill an relationship. People need to breathe! Some people do not realize they are doing or it is being done to them; but here is my take on the whole situation. Please read: UNINTERRUPTED SPACE!!!
